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Letting Go
By Kelle Sparta | June 4, 2012
In the past, I’ve focused on surrender – the act of allowing whatever is going to happen to happen. Relaxing into the moment and accepting what comes. Now, I want to talk to you about letting go. They may sound like similar things, but in action they are very different.
When we let go, we are letting go of attachment to a person, a thing, a feeling, or an outcome. I have been watching the patterns in my clients’ lives and this seems to be the topic for the month. Everyone is letting go of something. Whether it is a relationship that no longer serves, or a way of making income that is out of alignment with who they are choosing to be, or the idea that they are not good enough – everyone seems to be letting go of something.
Letting go is a freeing experience. It is also a mournful one. Anytime you let go of something you have been attached to, there is a mourning period that needs to be observed. Give yourself space to be sad that things didn’t work out they way you wanted them to, space to determine what part you played in that result, and space to come to a place of acceptance that this is how things need to be now. If you hope to move forward, you must first allow yourself to mourn the past.
Once you have finished your mourning period though, you’ll find that things begin to open up for you again. The universe has a funny way of rewarding you for letting go of that which does not serve you. Things will seem to pop out of thin air in support of your choices – just like magic.
What are you holding onto that no longer serves? Let it go. Allow yourself the space to mourn. And then watch as the world unfolds before you – bigger and brighter than ever before.
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Topics: Women's Empowerment Blog | 18 Comments »
June 6th, 2012 at 12:15 pm
Kelle, brilliant. I am definitely letting go of stuff all over the place right now and I’m doing SO much grieving – crying, sleeping, journaling and processing. Thank you for this affirming and beautiful post…
June 6th, 2012 at 2:09 pm
Lovely! Give yourself space to be sad – this is so important…then keep your eyes open for the gifts of the universe. So similar to my post today, too.
Hugs and butterflies,
~Teresa~
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June 6th, 2012 at 2:25 pm
Letting go does seem to be like a muscle to keep in shape. And maybe letting go differs from surrender in the intention. Surrender can be based more in faith and trust, whereas letting go is more active and intentional, thus the time and mourning process you describe. Thanks.
Karen Ribeiro recently posted..Slow Living
June 6th, 2012 at 3:30 pm
This is so true. Everyone is letting go, it seems. As a coach, I recognize this. But, as one doing her own work too, I forget at times that letting go makes room for the new stuff to enter in. That makes it a bit easier knowing that good things will eventually replace the ones I’ve let go of. Thanks for this reminder.
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June 6th, 2012 at 7:35 pm
I love letting go! I blog about it frequently because it is part of the process of becoming. A mom, a wife, a community member, a world citizen. It doesn’t mean give up…for me it means allowing the world and its inhabitants to bring their best selves to life. Thanks for the reminders!
Patty Tanji recently posted..Reclaim Your Money Genius
June 7th, 2012 at 11:16 pm
This is a really excellent post on the difference between surrender and the conscious choice of letting go… it really needed to be said that the two are not the same thing.
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June 8th, 2012 at 1:01 pm
Letting go is so powerful. It creates so much space for the stuff you really want to come in. I feel as if i’ve been releasing a lot lately and the expansion that is happening as result is luscious!
Leah Shapiro- Life Activator recently posted..The Realization that Changed Everything
June 8th, 2012 at 3:01 pm
Oh man, this is SO pertinent for me right now. I agree that letting go is different than surrendering – to me surrendering is more passive (like, letting someone take something from you) whereas letting go is an active choice, like you said. I’m at this point in a relationship right now (ending a long term one) and even though it was a mutual decision with no hard feelings, I’ve been doing a lot of grieving over it. It takes work to just. sit. with it and not try to change it, but that’s what I’m trying to do.
June 9th, 2012 at 4:55 pm
Perfect timing with this one — I have a big attachment I’m letting go of. I can’t quite see the big payoff yet, but I know it will be there. Thanks for the reminder.
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June 11th, 2012 at 10:52 am
I think that’s one of the most challenging things about dealing with our issues is that we don’t know what the benefit will be until we get through it. And I have often found that there are side effects that I would have never imagined would be a result of the work that always seem to show up. It’s a strangely,often non-logically connected world in our psyches. Hang in there – I’m sure the results will be spectacular!
June 11th, 2012 at 10:55 am
Michelle, I can so relate to this. I have found that for me grieving relationships isn’t just about letting go of what we had together, it’s also about releasing the dreams of what could have been. And I think that sometimes those are harder to release than what we have. Because the dreams are so attractive and they kept us there – usually for far longer than we would have stayed if we had been present with what was rather than what we hoped it would become. I’m sorry you’re hurting! I hope you feel better soon!
June 11th, 2012 at 10:56 am
I totally see the truth of that for you, Leah. I even see the bleed over of the work you’ve been doing into my life as we partner on the Unleash Yourself program. It’s been a wild ride! You Go Girl!
June 11th, 2012 at 10:58 am
Thanks, Hilary! I’ve seen so many people use the words interchangeably and they aren’t. Thanks for noticing!
June 11th, 2012 at 10:58 am
You’re welcome, Patty!
June 11th, 2012 at 11:00 am
I hear you, Lisa. Sometimes I think I coach others to keep reminding myself of stuff I already know. Here’s our mantra for today – “Breakdown before breakthrough!” Or, if you prefer, you could just go around singing “Something’s Coming” from West Side Story – that’s one of my favorites for manifesting.
June 11th, 2012 at 11:05 am
That’s a great way to look at it Karen, Thanks!
June 11th, 2012 at 11:06 am
I noticed that too Teresa. It’s funny how that works out. Seems it’s in the stars (or in the cards…)
June 19th, 2012 at 1:30 pm
I am letting go today against my will I will.